Ummm "real" CBT I don't understand.

There is only one kind of CBT though therapists taylor how they do CBT with each client. Some clients are able to do CBT in classes like I took depression management classes where over a space of 13 weeks we learned what depression was and how to recognize trhe symptoms and activities such as keeping a depression inventory log, and using thought records. relaxation techniques, grounding techniques and so on. The same when I took anger management classes - over a span of 15 weeks I was taught to use anger management charts, relaxation techniques and so on.

where as others are able to do it as a part of therapy sessions by working one on one with their therapist and instead of set classes its though out their therapy process they are being taught to use relaxation techniques, grounding techniques and recognizing their present day problems like depression, and so on that they bring into the therapist. for example I go through periods of time where I have trouble sleeping and nightmares. My therapist and I are doing relaxation visualizations during sessions and recording them so that I can use this at home, I also keep a variety of journals like my depression management logs, my anxiety management logs, my Dissociation logs,

Its all CBT - using various coping tools to manage my present day problems.

Therapists aren't supposed to change how you think. They are not mind reader inside clients heads saying dont think about this and don't think about that, no think about it this way. Doing that is not CBT that being emotionally abusive of not letting a person have a right to their own feelings and thoughts.

CBT the therapist teaches coping tools and the client uses those coping tools and in time things get easier which that in itself helps the client to feel better and think better of themselves and their environment.

Therapists cant fix a clients thinking process. only the client can do that. They can give them the tools but it is up to the client to use those tools.