My 2 year old is a handful. His tantrums are more than just terrible two tantrums, he kicks, hits, screams and bites sometimes. I can never tell what will set him off. He also has a very obsessive, and things must be done exactly how he says or else. It's not just having routine... It's him demning things be done his way. He is very intelligent and advance for his age and he has myself and my husband giving into him all the time bc of the tantrums. Its gottn to the point where i dont want to bring him anywhere. When he is at daycare or a sitter he is always so well behaved. I work very long hours, then come home to him, at first it's hugs and kisses then he will find something to tantrum about. I am exhausted. I try to be patient with him, but sometimes his tantrums set off a mood swing and I end up giving in just to get him to stop crying. My mother says he misbehaves at home bc I work all the time and I am too lenient with him. I don't know what to do, he is big for his age and often over powers me.

My son acts a lot how my brother did as his age, and he is now a 22 year old drug addict with anger issues that bullies my mother and was physically abusive towards me when we were kids. It terrifies me and makes me not want anymore kids!

How can I get control of this situation and still keep my cool? My mother was always a screamer and sometimes verbally abusive. I am scarred I will become like her, I already find myself loosing my cool and yelling sometimes. Help!