I agree with Leed (Post #4). Get out of this situation now. But plan a little bit. Try to collect all the information you can on your finances behind his back if you don't know about them. Ask around and take a little time to research family law attorneys and go for a consultation with a few. Many give free consults. Sometimes (I've heard) when a woman files for divorce, along with being awarded temporary support, she is permitted to stay in the home with her child/children so that a stable environment is provided for the kids---same school, friends, activities. HE may have to be the one moving out. The attorneys will know the laws in your state. If you get a chance, read my very long post, "20 year marriage" (if the moderators allow it since it is so long...). Every marriage on the rocks has different details, but don't hang in there. It's not healthy for you or the kids. Visitation details can be worked out as things progress. But consult an attorney. IMO, it's not the "high road" you're taking, it's the road to ruination. Enough is enough.