You and I have a few things in common: loneliness, a dead love life, and lack of true friendship. I don't feel too hot on my physical appearance either. But I'm failing to see how you are the "bad guy" here? Do people blame you for your niece's abuse? Or do they feel like you aren't showing enough emotion about it? Have you been victimized by this person as well?

Sorry if those questions were too personal. Just trying to clear some air.