If you are in a situation involving alimony insist on whatever legal paper has to be drawn up so that alimony is not a write off for him and taxable to you. What will that equal? He gets a tax break, you owe taxes on it, therefore it is in aculality less than stated when the taxes are subtracted. Insist that he get and provide regular proof of a life insurance policy with you as beneficiary. In the event he pre-deceases you, you will still collect alimony. I intend to insist that a "no-cohabitation" clause NOT be included in our agreement. The jerk stalked me and monitored my every move with no reson other than he is a control freak. I have a police report from this. I refuse to be "controlled" by him from afar. It is none of his business with whom I live, if it happens I don't remain alone. It is none of his business if I share a room in a big home with other people who contribute to rent. These along with some other things I have educated myself on by reading books (look into NOLO books on Amazon on divorce) will be deal breakers. I am willing to negotiate other things but I will NOT sign off on these. Whatever is negotiated, before you agree to anything ask. "WHAT ARE THE TAX CONSEQUENCES TO ME????" If they are not in your favor, negotiate, or say you'll think about it. Don't agree to anything fast. Do you think Donald Trump makes decisions without research? without knowing the FULL ramifications? Memorize the phrase, "After I consult with my attorney, I'll get back to you". There is no rush. This is your life. Don't feel pressured to make quick decisions which may have a negative impact on you and that you may end up regretting later. This IS IT. Be careful and cover your a-- at all times. Your lawyer has knowledge and credentials and hopefully expertise but he/she is your employee. Remember that. You make the final decisions based on advice, not because you feel someone is twisting your arm for a quick settlement.
Best of luck. Educate yourself. You will be able to ask pertinent questions and the answers may surprise you.