Hello All,

I usually come here for my BP stuff, but I unfortunately burned my bridge at the divorce forum I usually go to.... I forgot the ex-SIL pointed me there and still lurked. I posted a rant about the ex-mil and it got back to her....

So.. I'm BPII and am divorced. I have full physical custody of my three sons...

I had a meltdown when I had to go to the ex's apartment to get the boys stuff. The In-Laws were there at my request. Up until then, we had been getting along FAMOUSLY....

Now the MIL is nuts.... Being nuts myself, I think I'm qualified to make that judgment.... But with my meds, I have been able to keep my mouth filter engaged and not cause problems...

I lost it while at the appt. she was talking her usual nonsense and I just exploded. The FIL almost came to blows....

At the time and even for a few days after, I felt totally justified.... Now I feel like an ***.

Several days before, she pulled her usual MIL Crapola and actually told my kids they didn't have to do their chores (cleaning a cat litter box).... That PISSED ME OFF!!!

So after the apartment incident, I vented on the divorce support forum and the vent went viral to the family...

Trying to calm things down I sent an email saying I was going to be keeping the boys "closer to home" and that I expected the ex to pick up and drop them off if they were going somewhere....

Then the BIL sends my oldest (11yo) a message on Facebook telling him what a mean dad I am for keeping him from them....

I sent another email to everyone of the adults, asking them to please not use the kids like that...

I got back a long NastyGram in return from the BIL....

No matter what I do, I turn out to be the bad guy. What am I supposed to do?

Thanks for listening