Hello ShortandCute, wow that must be excruciating being so negatively affected by what your own daughter thinks of you (I think it must be harder to deal with what children and young people think of us, because they're not so good at hiding their contempt judgements criticisms etc and so it's a lot easier to interpret their responses negatively.)
As IATE said on other thread, I gather social phobia and AvPD (and various other set ups) have a lot of cross over if indeed they're much different in the first place, so consider yourself as belonging here!
Good luck to you with the meds and the counselling
Torn