Valium is a benzo. I would not take benzos with alcohol - it can be deadly and I am sorry that it was deadly in your mother's case. What a horrible way to lose one's mother.

I do not think my moderate thinking is innocent. The word innocent implies neutrality. I would not spend my monney on wine if I thought that all I would get is a neutral outcome. I am spending money believing that I would derive a key long-term benefit. Although I get wine primarily from inexpensive Trader. Joe's it still adds up so it is not something I. Would do just for a net wash.