Talked to my mother on the phone today. It turned rather cold on both sides as I refused to show interest for the usual "How was your New-Years-Eve kind of small talk". I had actually forgotten to call her and wish her a happy new year. I told her that and did not show any remorse, because there was none.
While listening to my mother's description of her new years eve party, which I found boring, I noticed that I rather had the wish to talk about Christmas again. So I interrupted her and asked her how she and her husband felt after the Christmas incident, whether they had talked about it again. "So what is there to talk about?" she replied. I told her I did not know, that I was just curious.
I hoped she would ask me how I felt about it, but nothing happened.
My first thought was: "She was never interested in how I felt about things. She hasn't learned anything from the incident."
I felt even more distanced from her, and that's how we ended the call. I told her I had some work to do.

I feel even colder than before, like watching a wall or something.
Probably next step is to accept my sadness or anger because of that.