If he was a man that did not believe in gift-giving at all I might understand this failure to get anything for you but the fact you mentioned everyone else gets gifts from him, it makes it very clear it's an intentional slap in your face for whatever reason. I am not sure how you dealt with him for 20 years because frankly I doubt his abuse stops at gift giving (or lack thereof)

I stand behind you all the way in how you were able to stand against him by taking his gift back. Unbelieveable that he'd actually ask for it back. Unbelievable!

I'm sorry for your situation...