I'm new here and really identify with the AVPD as a diagnosis for me, along with other stuff. I like people but all those thoughts like you all talked about, really gets in the way of me wanting to socialize. What do you guys think, did any of you suffer at the hands of a mother who was not able to give you the bonding needed during first months/years of life? I know that I suffer from that (a narcissistic mom who was very intellectual and interested in anything but children). I have known for years that she would not be capable of bonding with a baby. So, I realize where my initial disorder stems from and there are numerous ramifications to that. Somehow I have been able to work with people, own businesses,volunteer etc and feel very isolated and paranoid and anxious and sui through it all..... amazing! I am trying to get a handle or understanding on it as it has never gone away and is now making me want to isolate since I do not have to work so much anymore. So, I thought I would plug-in and learn from those who are experiencing similar stuff.