I know how much it sucks wanting your parent to feel how you want them to feel but sometimes they are too caught up in their thinking. But at the end of the day, she sees you as the child and in her head, no matter what your feelings are, you ought to be respectful. So the best you can do is let her think what she thinks while you know the truth. I know how paiiiiinful it is to want your parents to see your way and acknowledge why you are hurt. But they didn't grow up in the time we did. They are either oblivious or stubborn in their thinking. The only thing you can do is accept that she won't see it the way you see it. That doesn't mean you've necessarily forgiven her or that you should forget it but there's nothing you can do. Just relish in the power that you know the real deal and that she's losing out on a relationship with you because of it.