Thanks for the comment; I'm totally confused, but, yesterday he thought alot about it and I think he is just trying to overcompensate for the fact that they are divorced and he doesn't see the kids but once every 2 weeks. He works over the road so it makes it difficult. I know she hounds those kids constantly and I think he feels that we need to give them a more stable, nuturing environment then what she is. I understand why he does it, but, honestly, those kids need directives to teach them respect and responsibility...respect for property, respect for each other, respect for personal space and responsibility for their own actions if they misbehave.

We will see where this goes; right now he says he has changed and he doesn't know why; he says he needs to focus more on our relationship and on being an "engaged" dad...I agree. Maybe just stress of the holidays and all but I certainly will be monitoring it.

Thanks again.