he has been through a lot and
him having gone through a divorce and having the kids part time or w/e
- i know he might feel like he needs to be the better parent ?
me having divorced parents that plays in a lot ,
you do their chores let them go out
and soon it will turn in to
" but dad lets me go out ! "

the kids need to be disciplined so
what ur doing isnt even bad , actually its good parenting lol
be strong and
hopefully he will come around