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Originally Posted by Claritytoo
My understanding is that alters and ego states (as you put it) are created when we are young and that they are created to help and protect us. My thinking is that "interjects" is a demeanor that is adopted by an alter that has become angry with the host/original. It doesn't make sense to me that I would create an abusive alter. I have discovered that at least one of my helper alters had become angry with me for not acknowledging his help during the abuse. He acted similar to the abuser by calling me names and suggesting that I kill myself. We have spoken and he let me know why he was always telling me to kill myself. He was upset because I had not acknowledged him and thanked him for his help. I know him now and I have apologized for not knowing him before and not acknowledging his help. He seems to be ok with me now. I am trying to find out more about the theory behind the development of interjects. I know I have another "interject" but she is in the dark place and came out once to defend the small ones. Her presentation was a lot like one of my abusers. It was a weird experience hearing her speak to my t. She is still with me just not coming forward. I am still experiencing and learning about my system and DID. I appreciate your responding to my post. I will see if I can refer to my fragmented parts as distinct parts. They might like that better. You and the others on this site have been a great help to me and give me a place go go when I need to get stuff out of my head. Thanks.
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my introjects were created the same way in which my non abusive alters were. I went through extreme trauma as a very young child, during these traumatic events my alters were created to do the things I could not handle.
one of the things I could not handle was abusing myself when ever I tried to tell someone. my abusers would create situations in which one would appear to be nice and friendly, get me to talk about what the other abuser had done to me and then force me to punish myself for telling. As a result of that conflict (having to punish myself for doing something good like telling someone I thought I could trust) in my head was too much for me. So my introject alters were created to protect me from having to punish myself. in my child mind It was the alters punishing me not me punishing me kind of child like logic. I know many people with DID that have introject type alters that were created to protect their self in this way.
I know the idea that someone would have protection alters who's job, purpose and reason for being is to harm /punish the host sounds confusing to some people. most people think of the term ...Protection... as a positive thing. But even though alters are created to "protect" the person, that protection can come in some rather abusive ways.
"protection" doesnt always come to a child in a positive way...kind of like a parent who is trying to protect their child from the harm of getting hit by a car if they go in the road will give some sort of punishment to the child if the child breaks the rule to not go in the road. that punishment may be time out, a spanking or a privilege is revoked. even though the child perceives the time out, spanking or loss of privilege as a negative, The punishment is for the childs protection against the harm of getting killed. my introjects were alters that took on my abusers characteristics as a way to protect me from having to abuse myself. most if not all DID people have at least one (or more) abusive alters that are there to protect the host in some way by abusing the host.