Hey, I'm dealing with that with someone now too. We had this amazing connection online and on the phone (I've known this person for many many years, but we lost touch and had recently reconnected) and they said they were in love with me. This is someone I would not have normally gone for, but I thought hey.. this person is great and we both felt like eachother's soulmates. However, I found out after I had developed strong feelings for this person that they were married with children and had been living away from the family for a year. Apparently, to this person, it was just being lonely and vulnerable. They reunited with the family over Christmas break and now all of a sudden it's like nothing ever happened to that extent between us. I don't want to be a homewrecker or split up a family by any means and I feel guilty and like a bad person that I still hope it happens someday. Despite all that has happened in this situation, this is not a bad person honestly. Deep down, I will always be in love with them. It is painful. I'm sorry you're going through it too.