I know a Ukrainian woman in SF who is a widow due to H's suicide, with a son and daughter. The son was at some point a ward of the state. He beat his mom, at some point. Eventually, with the help from the state, he found his path, settled down in some state-provided housing, started working and studying and even got a steady gf. He sees his mother regularly. Irene, the mother, lives with the daughter who is just fine, a gorgeous. Blonde young woman who is apparently spared, mentally; she gets good grades and is on her school's basketball team. Irene says that making her son a ward of the state was the right choice - for his sake, for Irene's sake and for Anna's sake. Irene now has a stedy bf too - someone who leads the meetings of children of alcoholiics anonymous or whatever it is called, in his spare time. Everything fell into place aftter Irene stopped fighting her son's inherited MI alone and enlisted the help of the state.