Well, actually my therapist TOLD me to go into my bedroom, shut the windows and doors and POUND the pillows and scream at the person (who of course wasn't there). He told me to holler out all the things I would like to say to the person who hurt me -- get it ALL out. He said do it for however long it takes. Keep pounding, screaming & talking/yelling until I get all the feelings of anger out. But he wanted to make SURE I said everything I ever wanted to say to this person.

I had to do it more than once because I kept thinking of more things that I didn't say the first time. It WAS very therapeutic -- it really DID help, even tho I didn't get to say it in "person." I got a LOT of anger out, and I didn't feel the intense anger that I did before. In time, this anger abated, and actually just "went away." The anger turned into dislike of the person. And now I just don't care one way or the other.

So I guess he really knew what he was talking about. At first I thought it was kind of weird --- but it worked. I suppose it's different for everyone. But I'm glad I did it. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee