Can someone help me understand why this is happening. I am very easy, "95%" of the time, to get along with.

WHY is this issue with the renter washing his dishes getting out of hand. I don't understand... It is so simple... I wash the breakfast dishes. I wash the dinner dishes... YOU wash the dishes when you cook and when you eat late at night. I don't care what the renter eats or how much he eats or when he eats...I do care that he leaves his dirty dishes in the sink.

So simple, when I cook, I will clean everything... What is so hard to understand........

I'm dealing with a 33 year old man here... Ever since he moved in, I've said the same thing... Please do not leave dirty dishes in the sink. He said ok... I've talked to him in a "kind way" esp in the beginning.. But, now, 4 months later, he still leaves dishes in the sink, and I'm getting edgy, to say the least.........Not feeling oh so nice and kind now.......

Yesterday he cooked fish for his g/f and left a ton of dishes in the sink.. I put the dishes in a dishpan and put the dishpan in his bedroom. He got really mad.. In the long run, he washed his dishes.....

SO last night at 2 am he comes home, nukes some frozen food in the microwave and on his way upstairs "tells" me to turn my tv down. I would have turned the tv down, but when I saw the dishes in the sink, well you can guess, yes, I did not turn the tv down because I was irked he left a mess in the kitchen... He pounded on the floor.. I pounded on the ceiling.

Think he is in a "power struggle" with me.. But what is the deal with a "power struggle" with washing "HIS" own dishes.. That is the only thing I've asked him to do......AND YET he resists... WHY? I'm not into "power fights".............I've been "reacting" instead of well, "not reacting".....

What do I do.........4 months.....a 33 year old man... He won't wash the dishes that he uses... Not asking him to wash mine......

I'm starting to get afraid of what he might do.... Cuz he is yelling back at me ...pounding on the floor. HE is the renter...HE wants to tell "me" what to do... HE only does this when AJ isn't home.....

SO HOW DO I GET THIS IDIOT, sorry for the idiot word, to wash his freaking dishes??????????????????????????????? WITHOUT fighting....
IS he deliberately doing this...... I'd say yes......