fedup1,

I really agree with Rose Panachee. You've posted several incidents about your hub's behaviors that is completely inappropriate and painful for you. I really don't understand why you haven't ended the relationship already. Are you hoping for your husband to admit his wrongdoings and beg your forgiveness? Or, are you hoping that all PC members give you the exact same words of encouragement and advice?

Please forgive me if I sound frustrated, I'm not. I'm just confused in what you are waiting for. In my humble (but strong) opinion, your husband's activities have created a huge barrier between you two. I cannot see you being able to trust him again ~ which is a necessity in a healthy marriage.

Seek the assistance of a T, in order to gain the necessary strength to get away from your husband. Staying with him is only holding your self-esteem down in the dumps...there are no positive aspects of continuing to stay with him. Get out now, work on making yourself stronger, and move on in your life. You deserve better!

Gentle hugs to you... Best wishes!