skeksi, my T assured me that there was a point to having the conversations about anger even if I do not remember them. He said therapy is all about establishing new neural pathways and we do that by talking about the emotions and the needs, blah blah blah. I admit that I did this: at him repeatedly when he would tell me that, but the reality has been that I am better with anger than when I started therapy. I can remember discussions about anger now, and I can feel anger without it edging over near rage, and without the fear of becoming an abuser, or being abused. It does get better.