A book that my T told me to get is "Trama and Recovery" by Judith Herman. It discusses the three stages of "healing" that you will be going through.

As far as your husband is concerned, he is not going to understand it Maranara, so don't blame him. Your finally understanding yourself will "add to your family" as you progress, especially seeing ways you can help your own children better if you have children.

Unfortunately most men simply don't understand how their wifes have some "very intricate emotional needs". It isn't their fault really because men are simply not as emotionally complicated as women are.

Lots of self care and "patience" from now on Maranara. You "can" learn to overcome.

Also, Maranara, you are right, there has been alot of "ignorance" in the field of psychiatry and psychology in the past, lots of "misdiagnosing" too. My therapist told me that he doen't think that BPD should be named the way it is in the manual. He feels that it is more "complex PTSD" and has learned that the patients he has treated that were labeled BPD, had a history of childhood abuse or neglect and many do have PTSD symptoms and are misunderstood. He has found that what is deemed BPD, is actually very treatable and is often just given a bad impression of these patients.

I have not been diagnosed with this myself, but in my own therapy, and getting to know a few members that have this diagnosis, I can see how childhood trama or "neglect" can present having difficulties in "trust".

At least we are consistantly making gains in our understanding of how people can form some of these "disorders" and develope ways to treat them, verses just handing out "pills" and diagnoses of disorders.

((((Hugs)))