Hi I'm new here too. I am looking for the answer to that question myself, one of the main reasons I am on here. The relationships that I struggle with the most are with family who also have mental illness, but it's also hard to just be myself around people who do not have mental illness. For example when I am just pushing so hard (like today) to do basic things like get out of bed and take care of my kids I will end up chatting with another mom (our daughters know each other, she is not my friend). She often complains she just can't cope with getting ready for her next holiday or her nanny quit, etc. I can't relate. Im not saying everyone I know is like that but a lot of people I know are and it is very frustrating. Anyway I just wanted to say you're not the only one who wonders about this stuff.