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Jan 07, 2013, 03:07 PM
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Originally Posted by joseph_anthony
I have had major problems with the ladies for as long as I can remember. I only started being comfortable with them when I was not sober, it became much easier (I DO NOT RECOMMEND THIS).
I have this theory going and I am not 100% sure about it, but I was hoping for some feedback from you guys, so keep an eye out for this and let me know what you think, but I feel like guys that grow up that have older or younger sisters, or close female cousins, are more comfortable with girls and thus more apt to understand them.
I have found this to be a fairly reliable theory so far, but what does that mean for the rest of us? Am I supposed to be lonely forever?
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I don't think being around female relatives helps a man feel comfortable around women. In fact, I would think that a strong female presence in a man's life would cause him to be more sensitive than other men, consequently making him less attractive to women, and thereby making him less comfortable around women. Women seem more attracted to the 'macho' men.
At least I think that is what happened to me. Since I have never had a healthy relationship with another male (ex. dad, uncle, etc.) I've become even more uncomfortable around men than women. I have an older sister, several female cousins, a mom, and if I factor in all the professional women that have surrounded me (ex. social workers, teachers, special education coordinators, speech therapists, therapists, etc.) I have always had a significant female presence in my life.
I am more sensitive and emotional than a lot of women, and since women seem to prefer the macho or bad guy mentality, I am frequently rejected, and that makes me uncomfortable around women.
I don't know. Maybe I am talking nonsense. I think I will be lonely forever 
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