thanks for your input Dexter. yeah, i am actually am kinda reluntanct about getting too involved. I get along with her and everything and i really enjoy talking to her, and when i get upset about something, it is nice to know that someone else is upset about it as well, but at the same time, i would rather her be happy than upset all the time. Of course, that's not my call to make. But anyway, she just stresses me out so much after talking to her. I want to help her, but at the same time i feel like it would be hurting me, but I want to help her. Well, that is a good idea though. I have asked her if she had a good lunch once before and she told me in kind of a defensive way, but i really don't want to embarasses her. gosh i feel like such a flake, i don't know what i want, well i do, but i can't have both.