MuseumGhost.... You made some really good suggestions. I think he answered one of the questions this evening when he washed his plate but left his cup and spoon in the sink. I get the feeling he just doesn't want to wash his dishes, or he may even feel it is "beneath" him to wash dishes. Either way, he is being loud and clear how he feels about the situation by only washing half of his dishes..

You said, "He cannot leave his mess for others to clean up after him, and then expect anyone to respect him".. Exactly. That is how I feel. According to him, we are expected to respect him, yet he shows no consideration or respect for others..

You said "All adult human beings are expected to carry their share of the work involved in running a household." And I agree 100% with what you said. I don't know what more to say, without getting on a "soap box". Guess I'm getting tired and have decided to just put his dishes in the dishpan and put the dishpan on the patio and when he feels like doing them, he can wash them. I just don't want to look at the dirty dishes all day in my sink...

Of course when I was married, my now x would rinse out his glass or rinse off his plate if he snacked after dinner. Took him a few seconds and it was done and I never asked him to clean his snack dishes. He just did it. I had a dish washer then and well I always was the one to stack the dish washer. I was a housewife and it did not bother me to clean dishes or to keep the house clean. I wanted to be a stay at home mom. And was lucky to have had the opportunity. Looking back I think I would have been better off if I had worked either full time or part time.

ANYway you look at it, living with renters is not fun. It would work if folks would be responsible for sharing the household duties and being considerate of each other. But there is no such thing as a perfect marriage and there is no such thing as perfect housemates.. SO we move on...thinking of all the ways we can deal with the renter's dirty dishes. Stack them in his room.. Stack them outside. In my free time, just think of where we can stack them..