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I went to a church that taught forgiveness allot. And i've never thought that I didnt forgive him. But I just hate the fact that he has no struggles. I hate that he has no regret. Is that bitterness??? If so... I don't know how to get rid of it.

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I'm just beginning my journey in healing from my wounds my father created in me.

I was told by a wise spiritual person that forgiveness is the last step in the survivor's healing process. Telling a survivor, "you need to forgive the abuser," when the survivor has not finished the grieving process creates more guilt in the survivor. You'll forgive when you are able to forgive. It doesn't mean you are bitter. It means you are still struggling with the pains of the past.