Oh my... Sis, I honestly do not know how to reality check an unfamiliar 'subject'... I feel so helpless, I see you reaching out and have nothing more than hugs, eyes and ears to offer you... Can you maybe sit down hubby, clarify exactly what it is you fear and hubby can reality check as to why that wont happen? Maybe you guys can put it on paper, make it more concrete? Idk, I'm grasping at straws and probably not helping at all, but please know that I love you and I'm listening