Dark Heart, you need to see your psychiatrist as quickly as you can and get on medication to relieve the symptoms of paranoia.

As long as you know that it's paranoia and not a warranted fear, you are in control of yourself. It is unusual for a husband to act as yours is, in my view, but if he's doing it to protect you, then he has some compassion.

It's good that you can talk about it with us. We're listening. But you want answers.

You know that paranoia is a strong fear that may or may not be justified--usually, it isn't, so I understand. If this is the first time it has ever happened to you, probably you may be able to get it dissolved. You don't want it to settle into a pattern that is irrevocable.

In the meantime, stop drinking coffee, alcohol, tea, eating chocolate or anything
that is a strong stimulant to your nervous system. Feelings are very subject to
ingestion of foods that you may be sensitive to. I'd also stop the wheat for two weeks. That should give your system a chance to rid itself of any major
food sensitivities that could be contributing to your feeling tone.

Are you having disturbing dreams at night? (another clue to food sensitivity.)

Try to get that appointment with your psychiatrist as soon as possible. He/she
may have the solution for you.

Please stay away from your husband's communication with his friend so that you are not exposed so much to it until your psychiatrist gives you a plan of action.

It can be resolved, Dark Heart, with help and maybe new meds.

Releasing it to friends here may help you get a stronger hold on the fact that it
may not be a dangerous challenge to your marriage once you have resolved the
feelings. Several of us will be listening and trying to offer suggestions.

If you are willing, purchase a little paperback called "Around the Year With Emmet Fox". It has wonderful ideas for learning to be more independent and less afraid. He reveals the true power of positive thinking so that the negativity and fear can dissolve.

Keep in touch as you need.

Good wishes, too.