Sailaway,

The best advice I can give you is to try and not be goal oriented in therapy. I'm a very goal oriented person and found that therapy started really working when I gave up trying to control it.

I know this is hard. And it is something that will come in time. You have to let the thing evolve at it's own pace.

The "tool" that you need, and we all need is surrender. It can't really be earned. It's a free gift that comes in time.
You are doing well on your journey. Don't get discouraged. It will unfold at the right time and pace for you.

Buy the way, thank you for your service to our country.

Best of luck
Twinks