yeah.. trust me.. i have felt like packing more than once.. but these kids only come over on weekends. and not every weekend...I put my foot down about that... we have such a wonderful relationship and this is the one thing we have trouble with.

He is much the same way with his son.. the drug addict.. the children's father.. my BF has been enabling him while trying to help him as much as possible.. good intentions and all that...

The biggest part of the problem here too is that they have no boundaries where they live.. everyone lets them do as they please.. I seem to be the only one willing to set some ground rules here and I am the one always in a power struggle with the 3 year old.

My oldest son was taught by his father that he didn't have to obey rules.. he didn't have to repsect authority. .and he has been in and out of jail since he was 12 year old.. finally now at 22 he is learning he was never entitled to do whatever he pleased...

I want the best for these kids... and I can't thank you all enough for sharing your thoughts...