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Originally Posted by fedup1
Yes, you are right about everything and as of 3 days ago he has moved out and is going to be getting an apartment. I guess I have just been having a hard time of convincing myself of what is happening and been happening for 10+ years. Finding out that my husband I have been with for 13 years have 3 daughters with a son from previous relationship, and another one on the way is and has been a porn/sex addict the entire time. He has been living a double life, lying to, cheating on, disrespecting and betraying me the entire time everyday behind my back then coming home and pretending to be the perfect husband father. Everything I have been finding out in just the past year alone especially the past 3 months have felt like a thousand stabs to my heart and I just can't take anymore. No more trying to make myself believe it's not real and no more letting him hurt and abuse me this way.......Thank you for listening and replying
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Well, my heart goes out to you. I was married 13 years too. I have two boys from my wife that I'll be divorcing come march (had to separate for a year by state law) and although it's not exactly teh same as your situation, I feel I know very much how you feel. I'm 99% sure my ex was cheating on me too, for how long? I don't know. She denies it all saying she had "male friends" but they were never anything more than that. One of them she claimed was just a friend she visited while we were married - 3 hours away. Made me feel like I was crazy to think she was cheating on me with this guy but who goes to see an online friend of the opposite sex, 3 hours away to hang out, meet family and go to a concert without something more than friends there? never felt right. Also she was very protective of her computer and would get very upset if I looked at it - kind of like your husband's secret phone. The one thing that clearly shows she was doing something, was on my work computer (laptop) she would use from time to time, I found a picture of her breasts, which, was not for me, since she didn't send it to me, i had to scour my computer to find such images. So yeah, I understand.
I feel for ya. I'm sorry, I know this is very painful and crushing your heart. I'm here for you if you need someone to talk to.
~S4 *hugs*