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Jan 10, 2013, 10:57 AM
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Originally Posted by RomanSunburn
Hello Mr. V.,
I was just curious.. How did you approach her the second time? Did you start another conversation with her first? Or did you just kind of throw it out there "Hey, want to hang out sometime?" If you did it the second way, you could have thrown her off guard a little and her immediate reaction was to put up her defenses. Maybe next time, you need to have a few more conversations with someone before asking them to hang out. Her reason for rejecting you also might have had nothing to do with you. Maybe she has a boyfriend and felt that her boyfriend wouldn't appreciate her hanging out with guys she met at work.
I know the loneliness is crushing, but please don't give up hope or give up trying. From the little I know of you, you seem to have amazing qualities and make a wonderful friend! I wish there was more I could say or do to make you feel better...
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Just kind of threw the idea out there to her. She had arrived at the store for her shift, and my mom and I were talking to the owner in the in front, and she was standing over to my left watching the conversation. I walked over to her and asked her if she'd ever like to hang out.
The loneliness is crushing  . I'd love to have a close friend.
As for the other replies, I can't stress enough that I am active in clubs, organizations, etc., and if nobody believes me I can PM you a list of them.
Being around those that share an interest or hobby is not the jackpot of friendship that it is made out to be. In fact, if I can speak from experience, some of the worst people I've ever met happen to be individuals that share my interest in tarantulas. Doesn't end there either! In 2012, I decided to become a member of a photography club, and since I was looking for help I thought it would be the ideal place for me. Nope! I said I didn't understand why my photos were coming out distorted - that was my mistake. I used the word "distorted" and not "blurry," hence I offended everyone there, because "distorted" refers to the lens doing something wrong. The members were clear in telling me the lens is awesome and that I am just a terrible photographer. I left and have not been back since.
Clubs and interests aren't the social wonderland that they're described as.
However, I am active in an awesome club and do volunteer work there, but the one issue I have is that I can't relate well to the other members. Although age is not the worst thing, the fact that I am 21 years old and am hanging out with men in there 50s and 60s, some in their 70s, it can be difficult for us to relate to each other, if that makes sense. It's like the ONLY thing we have in common is our membership and interest in our political party. I like being there because it provides me with a sense of belonging, if that makes sense, but I can't do my-age-group kind of activities with them.
It would be really nice to have a few friends that are closer in age to me. I thought the lady at the pet store was nice .
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