Perhaps the hardest thing for you may be that to heal, you may need to "get out of your head" and "get into your heart." While logic and reason are very important in life, intellectualizing everything can be a defense mechanism against feeling emotional pain.

I suspect that underneath your deep feelings of being unworthy, there is alot of emotional pain that needs to be uncovered and expressed. If you have never had the experience of being validated, valued, and cared about just as you are, you are lacking an important building block from childhood. But working with a good therapist can be reparative, helping you to feel what it's like to be accepted and valued. By experiencing it, you can then begin to view yourself more realistically, and with more compassion.

It can be really painful to look at those past bad experiences that made you feel unworthy. But by feeling and expressing them, in the safe atmosphere of someone who cares about you, they can lose some of their power over you. You can learn to let go of those painful beliefs about yourself - a bit at a time -- and make room for comfort, self-worth, and hope.