Yeah, the only times I knew he was definitely "telling" me what to do where when things were more on an emergency mode. For instance, he's seen me go into some pretty severe dissociation, and he becomes very directive with me in order to help me "out" of that state. That kind of direction was needed because of how "far away" I was. I've started hyperventilating before, and he definitely gets very directive when that happens to get me to do what must be done in that moment to regulate my breathing. That's not scolding though; that's just dealing with the immediacy of the situation. Same thing with times when I've been in danger due to suicidality. He can get pretty darn directive at those times about what I need to do; it's a matter of safety at those times. Again, not scolding, but being very firm about what I need to do for my safety.