My husband has done this a few times and it was very helpful. I was sliding into a booth at a restaurant once and when I got all the way over I noticed that the table was squishing me and there wasn't much room. Since I'm claustrophobic, I started silently freaking out and my husband picked up on it right away. He said firmly "stop it" and it snapped me right out of it. Another time I was freaking out about my health when I was having problems with my allergies. He used this firm technique on me and it was so helpful. He is my rock and it was very comforting for me. It wasn't scolding at all, it was a firm reality check.

But I guess he has earned to be in this position with me. Farmergirl, I'm sure your T has earned this position too?