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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
One thing I know about myself, I too am a person that is mostly alone IRL. I pretty much can attribute most of it to my own behaviors, since I'm pretty socially phobic or at least very quiet and reserved to the point of shyness.
Of course there are positive traits about you someone or some people would find interesting. But do they get that from your brief encounters? While having common interests by no means is a minor thing, it is only part of the equation.
One thing I notice about your posts and your writing. You are very analytical and logical. you seem to be the type of person who thinks a lot about things and analyzes them - probably like me, to death. Logic has it's place but in your encounters with potential friends are you being too logical, too analytical in everythng you talk about? I know that with some people that are very logical they can seem to lack empathy. This is not to say they do lack it but that when they interact, logic always takes precedence. It's hard to see how someone feels when they're only willing to stay at that level.
I don't know if that's true of you, I can only look at what I've seen in your posts. I know that I am very different in real life than on the boards so that may be the case and I might be way off.
Just some thoughts.
~S4
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Yes, I am a logical, analytical person, much better with facts and information than socializing and emotional subjects.
It seems to me that those that share my hobbies and interests are too focused on being right, i.e., that everyone should do what they do. Raising tarantulas, for example, people fight about the best ways to keep certain species, and on the Internet it is as explosive and volatile as political and religious subjects, with endless attacks on each other. Photographers are competitive with each other about whose photos are the best, and how to best take photos. I refuse to argue with someone and will walk away or ignore them if it comes to it.
A lot of my hobbies are like this it seems. It can sometimes seem impossible to have a conversation with someone. Consequently, I don't associate much with individuals that share my interests anymore, because it never leads anywhere positive or constructive. Usually I like to be around those that
respect but do not necessarily share my interests, i.e., they are supportive of me and respect that I have these interests but aren't always active participants themselves.
I do over-think and analyze things to death, but I don't think I am over analytical around women, because I am too anxious to be analytical. I am analytical when I am alone.
Oh…I so wish I had some close friends
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