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Old Jan 10, 2013, 02:43 PM
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I don't think Genetic means integrity like we are dishonest or something. Which does not mean we are to blame or like its a shameful thing. More like internal consistancy. Integrity is often a misused word, I think it boils down to being congruent in actions, feelings, emotions, actions, thoughts. not used as an ethical words but the concept of intergrity.

Words like integrity ... living with intention, words like that are often misunderstood. Congruency doesn't just happen to anyone bipolar or not. everyone struggles with that in their lives. I stumbled with the word a bit too.

My old T very briefly talked to me about congruency. Gandhi also talked about this a lot.. Being congruent with feelings, thoughts, words and actions.. creates harmony. To me that is the same as integrity.. not easy to do no, possible forsure. Something for us to work towards to bring harmony to our lives.

DH I hope you are ok. I think it is important to talk about this stuff, so we can try to manage some of our stuff. It gives us more power to direct our lives. If we feel triggered and turn away from them which is extremely tempting and compelling to do because it feels completely awful we essentially avoid dealing with them or confronting them.

Like in your thread you got a lot of advice to avoid it, avoid the situation, and stay away from it, but to me that doesn't seem helpful in the long term, because nothing gets solved. And I know you are trying very hard to figure that out and take power back from that thinking. So I think some of this is kind of key to that situation. Lots of times when triggers get mentioned or come up peoples reactions are to "not go there". But maybe the trigger is really saying "hey! look at me, I need your attention!!". We tend to be like, yes later when I am ready, I cannot handle it now. Truth is most of the time, later doesn't come and totally ready doesn't happen either, we might never feel ready. We all want to avoid pain and want others to not feel it as well.

I certainly do not want to make you upset, nor were my intentions at all. I like talking about these things yes, cause to me they seem to get at roots of problems more. It's messy, uncomfortable, and hard to talk about and use the right words. I hope you are ok tho.... I myself have had a hard time with this stuff. I really do understand DH, you know I had a lot of paranoia before and I can still slip into it here and there. It really is not easy. It is constant work, and I really understand that. It's not a pleasant place to be in at all.
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