the trouble with love is that it isnt always a two-way emotion. it is easy to fall deeper for someone than they have for you. to be able to say you loved her is an achievement. love is powerful, it holds so much power that it can destroy a person.

i know that after a loss like yours, and to then see her with someone else can be so heartbreaking, theres no doubt about it. this will heal in time, and your heart will repair itself. please dont feel you need to shut your emotions off to anyone and everyone. i know you want to shut everyone out, so for w little while i think you should. just so your heart can focus on mending.

you need to grieve. you have lost something so dear to you. its like a death of a loved one, they have gone for good and all you want is for them to be back with you. unfortunately this isnt going to happen, but soon enough you will find that part of you that knows the secret to carrying on.

you say its happened before, well you were able to love again, so after this time you will again. and like tanya says, it might happen again, its just part of life and us trying to find that special person we want to spend the rest of our life with. so dont shut that out, you might miss out on a lifetime of true happiness and love with that special someone. and you dont want that, no one does.

i know how hard it is, and i understand what you are going through. so give yourself time to grieve and mourn your loss. go with whatever emotions you have at the time, good or bad. its all part of the process.

take care of yourself and my thougths are with you, alf.

simon