Ohh, V, I just read through the post. You know, I know how difficult it is to be alone. I literally have no one socially IRL that I feel I can count on or hang out with.
I am so terrified to trust again that I am alone. Now that I've been working on "stuff", even on the best of days, it's a bummer. I have to keep working on this and accepting where I am in life, or I will definitely be alone for the rest of my life. And not happy about it. That is the big game-changer.
That said, I was JUST yesterday asked out for a coffee by a lovely person, who could very well just want company, and V, I asked if I could let him know. He was VERY gracious with his reply. However, the point I am trying to make is that he seems very kind, is attractive, interesting, intelligent, and showing interest, etc. and I am going to say "no".
It has nothing to do with him. It has everything to do with me. But I don't know him and I don't want to tell him my life story. I don't want to tell him anything.
So please try to not be hard on yourself. Especially when it comes to going out and making friends as an adult. It sucks. It's hard. People are busy, stressed, tired, have issues, etc.
(and I know what you mean about hanging out with like-minded people in a specialty / exotic area. Everyone is a genious and know it alland does it the best way. It can get vicious. Ugh)
(ps, when I hurt my foot on New Years Eve, I waited two days to go to the surgeon because I didn't have anyone to call. And when I filled out the paperwork at the doctor's office, got to the Emergency Contacts, I didn't have anyone's name)
I don't know if this helps at all. I just want you to know that I can relate AND also to show you the other side of the coin.
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