I did the same thing your wife did.....only many times. It was after I lost my engineering career.....so we all thought including myself that it was the loss of my career that was the cause of my suicide attempts....only now after I left my husband 5 years ago.....I am looking back at what was going on & I realize that I was hiding in my career away from the bad marriage that had been bad since before we got married......I realized I had lost respect for my fiance before we got married & even told my mother I didn't want to marry him...but she said he would grow up & become responsible.....he never did. I should have forced the divorce while I had my career, but instead, we decided that we were both better off financially staying married even if we were basically separate (without seeing anyone outside of the marriage). The problem was after I lost my career, I ended up feeling completely trapped in the marriage....& he made it feel impossible to get out of....fought separating everything. He was a nice guy on the outside....but never would communicate & was completely irresponsible when it came to finances & he wouldn't lie about things but he would just keep quiet & not say anything & believe that his not telling me something had nothing to do with lying by omission. I was so miserable & wanted out of the marriage that I felt trapped in because he didn't want out....later on he commented about it would have made him feel like a failure......had no idea I was fighting that attitude when I wanted the divorce. That trapped feeling for me made me feel that my only way out was suicide.....& I kept trying......no suicide notes or anything. Obviously I failed or I wouldn't be here typing today......& I am glad now that all my attempts did fail even though there were many close calls during those years......no one got it that it had anything to do with the marriage.....even though I left his several times during those years.

Sometimes suicide attempts are a cry for help or a cry to feel loved....& other times they are just a plain cry like mine was that "I want OUT!!!!".

It would be good for you to know where your wife was really coming from with her attempt....but like me, she may not really know at this point.....but that communication would be a good one to try to have with her.....& maybe going to therapy with her could help you understand where she was coming from a lot better.

I understand your confused feelings.....think your wife has a lot of confused feelings also or she wouldn't have ended up attempting suicide like she did......hope you all can sort through your marriage & make the best decision for you all on whether to get out of the marriage or try to REALLY make it work.