An East Indian guy from OkCupid. He contacted me. He is 34. Has lived in more countries than I can remember including Australia and Ghana but educated in the US. Chatted with me a lot and was super polite and nice on chat. Then we met for a meal. Good looking enough. I appreciated his seeking out an older woman so I do want to be nice. Insisted on paying for the meal. Was super nice in everything.

Two weird things and one unpleasant thing:

-- tmi on the first date. Told me that his wife of 1.5 years cheated on him twice. He went into T for it and spent 10K on therapy which lasted 9 months. So he needs 9 months of therapy to overcome trauma from a r/s that lasted only twice that long. Efficient to say the least.

-- could not tell me which degrees he has, although that is neutral information which is expected on the first date unlike tmi about the cheating wife. Said that he had gone to MTI and Harvard and Stanford (all??). Works in biotech/medical field. I inquired about the medical school because I know that MTI does not have one. He said that he went to Harvard AND Stanford for medical school but then could not get into residency of his choice so did not receive the privileges to practice medicine. That is weird - normally people who cannot go to school or residency program of their first choice go to their second choice. Also told me that he does not have a PhD. Still did not tell me what he finished. I am a school drop-out myself but at least I tell the story as it was. He just equivocates. It felt very weird. I also had the impression that he does not complete projects. I have the same problem and am not looking to associate with a person with such tendencies.

-- wanted to kiss me. I said fine - I was trying to collect information about him and kisses do convey lots of info. Well, I would have been better off kissing a corpse, really. So that killed it for me - I cannot go further with him, period.

I told him that I would be away and when I would return. He is sending me chats now and I need to stop it.

Options:

-- tell him that I am not interested and thank him for his time

-- tell him that I got the notion that exclusive r/s is really important for him (he said that it was important for him in his marriage) and currently I cannot provide it, which has a danger of his turning around and saying that no, exclusive r/s was important to him back then but simple dating would be OK for him now, and then what?

-- tell him that I am starting something serious with another person off the dating site and will get back to him if that does not work out (has the side effect of making him appear second class and I want to be nice)

-- filter out his email address from google chat, but that is not nice at all.

Maybe there are better ideas out there. I do want to be nice.