I'd like to third the initial poster's comments as well. Having been on the receiving end of the first and a male, I'd say certainly start with the first. It's as up front and gracious as you can be, anything that happens after that is irrelevant.

If he is a gracious guy he will probably thank you for your time maybe apologize. Probably do something to leave the door open should you ever want to see him, or at least that's what I would do.

Good luck hamster-bamster!