I don't blame anyone for reacting badly to "don't cover your face" (btw, if I am wanting to cover my face I am going to do it, and a T telling me not to would come across as bullying and abusive)

Yes, recently I have. I find it very unhelpful, but the relationship is worth enough to me that I'm still trying to work through it. I was told in a raised voice about 7 times in one session that I wasn't trying (I was, I guess just not in the way she needed me to try). "I can't help you if you don't TRY". "Yes, but only after I dragged the answer out of you. I expect better of you after four years"! The whole hour was similar and it was hard on both of us, but I felt crushed.

And in a subsequent session she told me she felt like she'd been physically hit (by my resistance).