I have been dating a man on and off for 5 yrs. I dont know how to end it and not let him come back.. I want a full time relationship,he says he does too but here is the problem...5 yrs of on and off ..I moved across country for him and I now live about 12 miles from him ..he comes over BUT never spends the night. I told him I dont want to be a friend with benefits and we break up..he will call me & tell me he loves me so we try again .only for him to come over stay for awhile and never spend the night again...I go to his house for the weekend because he has a too do list that he needs to get done around his house and I go over and help him . When I tell him I dont want to be part time he will stay away for about a week or two and then starts calling again...I know I am at fault for letting him treat me the way he has But I have nobody here except for my kids who have their own lives and can care less for how I am hurting or they just dont want to deal with it..I want to move on and stay away from him BUT , I dont know how...he is real good about emotionally draining me into thinking its me and my issues..he is 40 yrs old ,never married,no kids, he moved into a house he built 2 yrs ago that is in his parents backyard..he tells me Im crazy and always turns it back onto me and tells me he loves me and how I should see the good he does for me..yes, he is good to me as long as I let him have his way and dont complain .I DONT want to be just a friend who he can sleep with and then run home ..how do I go on without him and get over the hurt ..I cry all the time and cant sleep.its getting hard for me to even go to work because I cant function..I dont have the money it takes to seek counseling so thats why Im here..If anyone has some advice on how to move on please help me ..thank you