Well wait a minute! The Asperger's thing does not automatically disqualify you from having or making friends.
Trust me. So my mom and my older brother are both diagnosed Asperger's. Frankly, I get along with Asperger's people better than so-called "normal" people. I also have most of the social-ineptness that goes along with Asperger's because I think that was what I was used to when growing up... But I don't have the motor skill problems that my brother has, for example.
And frankly, my brother
with Asperger's has historically had more friends than me, and is generally higher-functioning than myself (i.e., didn't spend years in therapy or have repeated hospitalizations). And the fact that my mom has 3 kids, and has been married to the same socially-normal guy (my dad) for over 25 years says something too.
So I'm quasi-Asperger's perhaps. But it is definitely possible to make friends. You just have to find
real people, which are unfortunately in the vast minority of the population. I don't really hold a high regard for people in general, honestly. And even though I'm lonely... would I want to hang out with all these people I see, who are so boring and are more or less just hollow shells of human beings? Probably not. So if someone doesn't want to be friends with you because your eye contact sucks... that's
their stupid problem, in my opinion. What a ridiculous reason not to be friends with someone. But unfortunately that's the way most people are I think, and they won't even give you a chance...
It gets pretty annoying when YOU are always the problem. YOU don't make eye contact so
of course people won't like you. YOU make awkward conversation sometimes so
of course people won't like you. I think this illustrates a lot about people in general. I mean, a person is never intentionally awkward; if they are then they're being rude, not awkward. I don't get in a big fuss if someone accidentally steps on my toe, you know? But apparently I'm not ever supposed to say something awkward ever OR ELSE I'm just doomed to be alone forever. Yeah. Then I get too anxious about saying the wrong thing so I don't say anything at all. So
of course people don't like me! No matter what I do it's wrong. Why don't we just freaking teach people not to be so full of themselves so they don't become offended by any stupid little thing, or to be so superficial as to judge the stupid brand of clothes you wear?
OK, rant/pity party is over.
