The eye contact thing is huge for me. It don't look people in the eye. It's a being submissive and being "read" thing. But anyway my family physician was talking to my son and know about his aspurgers and his lack of eye contact. He said something that helped me as well as my son, it should have been a no brainer, it was a duhh moment. The dr said don't look people in the eye. Look between there eyes. Like a cyclops maybe. It works. Pelple don't know you do not look them in the eye. Near eye contact is good enough. Hope this helps someone out there.