The "should have, could have and would have" game we all suffer from. I get soooo tired of being asked those things as well. Face it, they ask, but do they REALLY care? They ask, but do they REALLY want to hear it ALL? They ask, but probably don't have the time it will take for you to tell them ALL about it! And if the person has been on any part of your journey with you, you think they are sick of hearing it. I call it "Auto Reply". For me it is the result of being expected to give answers to questions I don't really understand and doubt the person cares. It is the result from being trained to put my feelings and thoughts on the back burner. It is the result of not finding the right way to put things for someone to understand or no one taking the time to understand and my building frustrations. I started keeping a journal and walked into T session one day and when she asked how I have been since our last talk, I handed it to her and said, this will explain it. I still use a journal. When I have a big issue that involves a single subject or person, I either start a new journal or use dividers to keep it from getting jumbled with other things. Writing really helps me get it out and if I want to share it with someone, they can very clearly see it all. Hope you find some help in this and can start getting out of the grey area. By posting here, you have made your first step.