Thanks to all for your responses. I have been trying to flesh out thoughts a little better lately, and I feel like it's working in terms of being able to work together to achieve goals, even if that goal is putting together dinner.

To those with ADHD, would you find it infuriating if you were asked to repeat back requests, instructions, or conversational points...? I know if someone did it to me I'd be pretty snarky in reply, but just wondering if this is a good, helpful strategy or tool for communication. I'm trying so hard to be as nag-less as possible but also helpful. Nagging is not in my personality and I can't stand myself when it happens!

Patti, thanks to your mention of that site, I was able to find a book called "Is It You, Me, or ADD?" by Gina Pera. My boyfriend and I purchased it via Amazon and have been reading it together. So far, the beginning starts out really fleshing out the symptoms and effects of AD/HD in a very understandable way that isn't just redundant of the basic information one always hears, along with topics from partners of those with ADD. My boyfriend is also really enjoying reading it, which makes me happy. He seems to be finding solace in seeing he's not "crazy," and that many struggle with the same things he does. It's already helped both of us see better what the other does a daily basis in a very unbiased way.