Hi canders. hang in there. its really something to be proud of that your therapist trusts you to where she is saying its time to stop therapy. by the way just because she says she has to stop seeing you right now because you fortunately don't fit the criteria that she sets for seeing her clients doesn't mean that in the future - near or far - that you cant call and see her when you need to again.

As for what are you going to do? well you have a few options. you can go against her belief and trust in your coping tools that she gave you during the time you were seeing her and your ability to use them and fall apart which of course would put you back in that area of criteria that will keep therapy with her open. though it may not be the same with her because she will probably be even more forceful of making you stand on your own more during time with her to prove to you that she trusts your abilities now to take care of yourself.

You can honor her trust in you and give it a try going monthly for a bit with her to see where that takes you. you may learn why and how she has come to believe you are better and don't need her weekly any more.

Or you can drop her and start with someone new weekly but in making that decision it may be that the next person will say "I can't see you the way you are on a weekly or bi monthly schedule. I will have to see you monthly or every other month or every three months."

When I was with SKR I had to make this choice. SKR thought I was ready for monthly and in her personal life she was also in need of more time beween our therapy sessions together. At that point our therapy time together was just us and no threapy agency involved because the therapy agency had laid her off. We got permission for her to keep me on as a client outside of the therapy agency. I wasn't told I was going to a monthly schedule so I didn't have much time to worry about if I could handle it or not. SKR and I were sitting at the local library and while I was busy paying attention to the printer she said how about we meet on this day and time and wrote it up on a paper before I could realize it was a whole month away and then our time was up for that day so she grabbed her stuff I grabbed mine and we walked out of the library together she got in her car and drove off to pick up her child from school and I biked home. When I grabbed the paper and wrote the appointment up I realised she had switched my appointment from every two weeks to monthly. I felt proud of the fact that she felt I was ready but ooohhh man so scared. I called her and left her a message telling her I now knew why she had made such a hasty retreat outside the library for we always took a few minutes of chit chat at her car and that day she didn't stay for our normal bye see you later chit chat. I told her that was very sneaky and on the one side I was happy that she trusted that I would be fine but I didn't feel that way. She called me back and left me a message stating I would be fine. I just had to remember that I will be seeing her again just instead of in two weeks we would see each other in 4 weeks and then told me she wanted me to think about...(a question) between now and then and see what I could come up with around it. she knew with all my creativity work I will end up with something that will knock her socks off. So now instead of being in a panic over the fact that I was getting better and that meant seeing her for therapy less I had a project to take that anxiety out on.

Maybe you can do the same thing - think about this past session and come up with a creative project about something that was a topic of that session. I can think of one right now - how about getting two shoe boxes, construction paper, glue, scizzors and creating a diarama of this topic of therapy sessions being spaced out to 4 weeks. line the shoe boxes inside and out and then glue them back to back so you now have two rooms. in one room make a scene that depicts the situation from the therapist point of view and in the other room behind that - the scene of what is going on in your point of view. and take plenty of breaks so that you have a chance to get the details the way you want them. Then when you go to your next therapy session in 4 weeks you have something to show your therapist that will help you and the therapist work through the fact that you are not ready yet to switch to a monthy schedule. who knows maybe by doing the project you will see strengths in you you cant see at the moment or in seeing the project the therapist agrees with you that you are not ready to go to a monthly schedule yet and go back to your previous session schedule.

Hang in there.